Renewed Investor Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 I have a friend of Japanese origin who I've known for about 2 years now and tonight was the first time I had actually seen his place. I was pretty surprised to find that his entire family lived under the same roof. He shares a bunk bed with his brother, his and his brothers wives share bunk beds in a separate room and his parents have their own separate rooms. I didn't say anything about how odd I found it, felt like it was a very infantile kind of atmosphere, even more odd factoring in that he, his brother and both their wives are all in their early to mid 50's. Is this typical of Asian families? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renewed Investor Posted May 7, 2015 Author Share Posted May 7, 2015 It was segregation of the sexes I found most odd though, men in one room women in the other. I am curious to know how they go about "getting romantic" but it did not feel appropriate to ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DTMark Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I have clients in Hatton Garden, some Jewish. One aspect I especially enjoy is talking to them about life, family, what they get up to. One of the families observes all the Jewish holidays and traditions. Such concepts are totally alien to our family. OK, we're not Jewish, indeed we're all agnostic, and we don't have those sorts of "get togethers". Not on such a regular basis, anyway tied in with some sort of "festival" or "purpose". We see each other for a day at Christmas. Some birthdays. That is all. While it's a world away from mine, I do enjoy hearing about how others live their lives - maybe especially if it seems totally oddball to me. I find myself really respecting, perhaps, admiring, their decisions and the closeness it brings. I presume. It appears to work for them. I must "go travelling" some time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy_renting Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 It was segregation of the sexes I found most odd though, men in one room women in the other. I am curious to know how they go about "getting romantic" but it did not feel appropriate to ask. Set up a webcam. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Masked Tulip Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Comfort wives? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Masked Tulip Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Do they all dress up as anime characters? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sPinwheel Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 bludy foreners. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Don't mention the War! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greg Bowman Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I have clients in Hatton Garden, some Jewish. One aspect I especially enjoy is talking to them about life, family, what they get up to. One of the families observes all the Jewish holidays and traditions. Such concepts are totally alien to our family. OK, we're not Jewish, indeed we're all agnostic, and we don't have those sorts of "get togethers". Not on such a regular basis, anyway tied in with some sort of "festival" or "purpose". We see each other for a day at Christmas. Some birthdays. That is all. While it's a world away from mine, I do enjoy hearing about how others live their lives - maybe especially if it seems totally oddball to me. I find myself really respecting, perhaps, admiring, their decisions and the closeness it brings. I presume. It appears to work for them. I must "go travelling" some time. What a lovely post thought just well honest and open Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eight Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Don't mention the War! One place I worked, some Japanese visitors stayed at the home of a senior member of staff. He had a picture of the raising of the flag over Iwo Jima on his dining room wall. It did not go down well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest_FaFa!_* Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I have a friend of Japanese origin who I've known for about 2 years now and tonight was the first time I had actually seen his place. I was pretty surprised to find that his entire family lived under the same roof. He shares a bunk bed with his brother, his and his brothers wives share bunk beds in a separate room and his parents have their own separate rooms. I didn't say anything about how odd I found it, felt like it was a very infantile kind of atmosphere, even more odd factoring in that he, his brother and both their wives are all in their early to mid 50's. Is this typical of Asian families?I have spent nearly half a decade in Japan and am married to a Japanese. Never heard of that kind of set up, sounds odd. Not unusual for the unmarried, particularly women, to live with their parents. Having aged parents living with the eldest son still happens. Other than that, people set up on their own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I have spent nearly half a decade in Japan and am married to a Japanese. Never heard of that kind of set up, sounds odd. Not unusual for the unmarried, particularly women, to live with their parents. Having aged parents living with the eldest son still happens. Other than that, people set up on their own. A mate of mine married a Japanese girl, due to living in Japan! He's a big hairy Yorkshireman! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hail the Tripod Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I have a friend of Japanese origin who I've known for about 2 years now and tonight was the first time I had actually seen his place. I was pretty surprised to find that his entire family lived under the same roof. He shares a bunk bed with his brother, his and his brothers wives share bunk beds in a separate room and his parents have their own separate rooms. I didn't say anything about how odd I found it, felt like it was a very infantile kind of atmosphere, even more odd factoring in that he, his brother and both their wives are all in their early to mid 50's. Is this typical of Asian families? No wonder there's a population collapse happening in Japan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
winkie Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I have clients in Hatton Garden, some Jewish. One aspect I especially enjoy is talking to them about life, family, what they get up to. One of the families observes all the Jewish holidays and traditions. Such concepts are totally alien to our family. OK, we're not Jewish, indeed we're all agnostic, and we don't have those sorts of "get togethers". Not on such a regular basis, anyway tied in with some sort of "festival" or "purpose". We see each other for a day at Christmas. Some birthdays. That is all. While it's a world away from mine, I do enjoy hearing about how others live their lives - maybe especially if it seems totally oddball to me. I find myself really respecting, perhaps, admiring, their decisions and the closeness it brings. I presume. It appears to work for them. I must "go travelling" some time. Having worked closely with people of all types from all backgrounds, races, creeds, and religions I too find it fascinating how some live, I think we can learn so much about different people, families, communities, and the strengths that hold them together...... there are as many good ways how people live as there are as bad ways to live.....hopefully most of us can tell the difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest_FaFa!_* Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 A mate of mine married a Japanese girl, due to living in Japan! He's a big hairy Yorkshireman!I didn't meet her in Japan but moved here with her! I like fish so it seemed a good idea at the time! She says she doesn't mind being married to a hairy foreigner but I caught her using a pet hair roller to clean the sofa! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justthisbloke Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I didn't meet her in Japan but moved here with her! I like fish so it seemed a good idea at the time! She says she doesn't mind being married to a hairy foreigner but I caught her using a pet hair roller to clean the sofa! At least she lets you on the sofa! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erat_forte Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Set up a webcam. I suppose some people would find that helped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Masked Tulip Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 A Swansea woman I know moved to Japan and when she returned a year later she had morphed into a Japanese woman - it was almost as if she had plastic surgery to look Japanese. She even pronounced like a Japanese person. It was really weird and a tad spooky. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sledgehead Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 A Swansea woman I know moved to Japan and when she returned a year later she had morphed into a Japanese woman - it was almost as if she had plastic surgery to look Japanese. She even pronounced like a Japanese person. It was really weird and a tad spooky.and illegal: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Identity_theftand that's before we even get to what this woman has done to your friend! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SNACR Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 I hate staying at other people's houses, even relatives, I would rather book into a nearby hotel, if at all possible, without offending them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 A Swansea woman I know moved to Japan and when she returned a year later she had morphed into a Japanese woman - it was almost as if she had plastic surgery to look Japanese. She even pronounced like a Japanese person. It was really weird and a tad spooky. Ting Tong? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SNACR Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Ting Tong? Shh, it wasn't the UKIP landslide hoped for, so you'll have to keep a lid on the casual racism, for now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Shh, it wasn't the UKIP landslide hoped for, so you'll have to keep a lid on the casual racism, for now. I'm not bluddy ricist! Just a cheeky old git! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
council dweller Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 My jap wife lives with me in a council house. She thinks she`s lucky..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 My jap wife lives with me in a council house. She thinks she`s lucky..... I hope you think you are! Then she probably is! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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