Fancypants Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 here's the other one The dual demands of work and childcare placed on parents mean that family life is suffering, a survey suggests. Most of those questioned - 61% - said parents do not get enough time to spend with their children. Nearly half - 48% - said they had to put their career first even if it affected their family relationships. The survey, which saw 1,148 adults questioned, was commissioned by The Children's Society and is part of the charity's Good Childhood Inquiry. The inquiry, which includes research around the themes of friends, family, learning, lifestyle, health and values, will publish its final report in the autumn of 2008. HAVE YOUR SAY Over recent years many parents have become entirely selfish in relation to their children. Kenneth Reinhold Send us your comments The survey found that 48% of participants did not believe that a pre-school child was likely to suffer if his or her mother went out to work, but 37% disagreed with this statement. Two-thirds of respondents - 67% - said they did not believe parents should stay together when they did not get along, even if there were children in the family. Family bonding And according to the children who contributed to the inquiry, a happy home life was one in which a family spent time together. Bob Reitemeier, chief executive of The Children's Society said: "Family is hugely important in the lives of all children yet modern society appears to be pulling them apart. "Only by taking a closer look at how a child's need for family can be met in the context of the 21st century can we ensure a good childhood for all children. "Without this fresh perspective and a better understanding of how to support families, we risk damaging the successful growth and development of future generations." Kathleen Kiernan, of the University of York, is also a member of the inquiry panel. She said: "Family life is changing with rising rates of parental separation, more working parents and different parenting styles. "We know these factors affect children's lives and that when children feel loved and secure they build up resilience to life's challenges." on BBC News 24, every punter texting/e-mailing in to reply so far has mentioned the cost of mortgages as a big factor in both parents working... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruggedtoast Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 And by the same token it seems unfair to blame parents for badly behaved offspring and then give them no means to supervise their kids as now both parents have to work whether they want to or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minos Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 If you can't afford to raise a family don't have one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chichi Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 And by the same token it seems unfair to blame parents for badly behaved offspring and then give them no means to supervise their kids as now both parents have to work whether they want to or not. What? If you've bought your kids up right whether they've been to nursery or not, then they'll not be horrors. If you've got a stinking attitude and pass it on to your kids then you've got no one to blame but yourself. Lack of supervision with people thinking its alright if they kids are off bothering someone else is the problem. Maybe we need a curfew to keep kids in for a couple of weeks to show parents what parenting is. If you can't be there for your kids then you need family support. If your parents can't help you then you need to pay for care for your kids not just leave them alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Englebert Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 If you can't afford to raise a family don't have one. Too right! I may also add "If you can't afford to buy a house...don't buy one". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mercenarul Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 So that means all the kids of families on benefits who do not work, live in council houses and have plenty of time to spend at home should be well adjusted, caring and hard working descent members of society? The worst kids are usually the ones whoes parents are at home (or in the pub) all the time, not those whoes parents are working. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fancypants Posted July 17, 2007 Author Share Posted July 17, 2007 Too right! I may also add "If you can't afford to buy a house...don't buy one". indeed - children are not necessarily expensive things - houses are (at the moment). I would say that being able to lavish care, time and attention to your children is immeasurably more beneficial to the wellbeing of the family than any amount of money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mercenarul Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 indeed - children are not necessarily expensive things You have obviously never had any. They are extremely expensive, unless you can manage to get the government to pay for everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unexpected Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 Too right! I may also add "If you can't afford to buy a house...don't buy one". And if you cant afford to eat then dont eat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnd Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 (edited) rockefeller (in my sig) was reported to have said that family breakdown was one of the reasons why they funded 'women lib' apparently it created a new set of taxpayers (women) to pay the interest on the fiat loans the privately controlled central banks were issuing it also forced women to put their children into childcare - therefore allowing the state to indoctrinate them, as opposed to being brought up by the 'family', at an even earlier age increasing money supply/inflation/asset prices whilst restraining wages is creating slaves why do people not question why they need two wage earners to buy property today? Edited July 17, 2007 by dnd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unexpected Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 You have obviously never had any. They are extremely expensive, unless you can manage to get the government to pay for everything. Well that makes my oarents raising 3 kids on one teachers salary in a house that now costs half a million all the more remarkable. I agree that kids dont have to be expensive, but that only applies if the mother can stay at home to look after them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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