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‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’

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https://www.thecut.com/2018/11/im-broke-and-friendless-and-ive-wasted-my-whole-life.html

 

I feel like a ghost. I’m a 35-year-old woman, and I have nothing to show for it. My 20s and early 30s have been a twisting crisscross of moves all over the West Coast, a couple of brief stints abroad, multiple jobs in a mediocre role with no real upward track. I was also the poster child for serial monogamy. My most hopeful and longest lasting relationship (three and a half years, whoopee) ended two years ago. We moved to a new town (my fourth new city), created a home together, and then nose-dived into a traumatic breakup that launched me to my fifth and current city and who-knows-what-number job.

For all these years of quick changes and rash decisions, which I once rationalized as adventurous, exploratory, and living an “original life,” I have nothing to show for it. I have no wealth, and I’m now saddled with enough debt from all of my moves, poor decisions, and lack of career drive that I may never be able to retire. I have no career milestones and don’t care for my line of work all that much anyway, but now it’s my lifeline, as I only have enough savings to buy a hotel room for two nights. I have no family nearby, no long-term relationship built on years of mutual growth and shared experiences, no children. While I make friends easily, I’ve left most of my friends behind in each city I’ve moved from while they’ve continued to grow deep roots: marriages, homeownership, career growth, community, families, children. I have a few close girlfriends, for which I am grateful, but life keeps getting busier and our conversations are now months apart. Most of my nights are spent alone with my cat (cue the cliché). 

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19 hours ago, Si1 said:

I've never moved city due to a relationship breakup. Do people seriously do that?

We dont, but the americans seem to follow the jobs ie money.

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All of her 'problems' stem from caring too much about what other people think about her, what she "should" have achieved at a certain age, and comparing herself to other. Let that go, learn to be comfortable in your own skin and your own small achievements, and happiness follows. 

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