MrPin Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 My dad is 87 now. What a smashing dad he's been. When I compare him to one of my younger mate's dad "Mr competetive dad", I think I got a good deal. I don't have many common interest with my dad, but he is one excellent bloke. Discuss! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greg Bowman Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 My dad is 87 now. What a smashing dad he's been. When I compare him to one of my younger mate's dad "Mr competetive dad", I think I got a good deal. I don't have many common interest with my dad, but he is one excellent bloke. Discuss! Nice to hear truly. I feel the same way about my old man seen a bit but never let it scar him or deter from doing his best as a Dad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eight Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 My Dad is a bit of a puritan, and not very demonstrative. His views are stuck in the 1950's and consequently so is he. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erat_forte Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I think Mr.Pin's dad is a bit odd. I mean, just look at his offspring! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 I think Mr.Pin's dad is a bit odd. I mean, just look at his offspring! I think he did well! I have two sisters, only one showed me her *****! It looked like every other's lady part that I ever saw. Nothing abnormal! There is only one Pin! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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JoeDavola Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Joking aside, it's wonderful that your Dad is still with you at 87 - the Pin genes must be strong! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
winkie Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 My dad is smashing....we were never rich, we were never given stuff freely..... only lots of freedom and lots of love, he has always trusted us all, we all trust him....honest, open, generous and fair........loved dabbling in cars, boats and model planes, could fix anything, loves tools and gadgets, need a tool of any sort borrow it from dad, loves washing-up.....mum did the decorating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
council dweller Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 My old man was manic depressive . Must be nice to have had a normal dad. He was scary but not violent ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 Worship not false idols. The "false Sooty" will fool the feeble minded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 Joking aside, it's wonderful that your Dad is still with you at 87 - the Pin genes must be strong! His father made it to 98! I'm not stopping now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeePee Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Daddy or chips? My dad is smashing....we were never rich, we were never given stuff freely..... only lots of freedom and lots of love, he has always trusted us all, we all trust him....honest, open, generous and fair........loved dabbling in cars, boats and model planes, could fix anything, loves tools and gadgets, need a tool of any sort borrow it from dad, loves washing-up.....mum did the decorating. Very similar to mine. He's pretty quiet and easy going and we get on when working on the cars, fixing stuff up etc. We can also go a stretch of time without talking and it makes no difference - he's always there. I had an ex once who's parents were constantly arranging family events most weekends, it becomes far too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
council dweller Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 The wife`s parents live in Kyoto, can`t say that`s a problem. Free to phone from here but expensive to phone back apparently .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Si1 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 The wife`s parents live in Kyoto, can`t say that`s a problem. Free to phone from here but expensive to phone back apparently .... Skype and other similar internet calling services? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LC1 Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 The wife`s parents live in Kyoto, can`t say that`s a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ccc Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 My Dad is a bit of a puritan, and not very demonstrative. His views are stuck in the 1950's and consequently so is he. Burds were very fit in the 50's. Perhaps he's onto something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
council dweller Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Well yes si1.... The wife only wants to talk when she wants to talk! Cant blame her for that. We use EE, incudes calls to 100 other countries. Her parents (80 + 79) think that technology stopped with having a tv in every room. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Battenberg Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Daddy or chips? Very similar to mine. He's pretty quiet and easy going and we get on when working on the cars, fixing stuff up etc. We can also go a stretch of time without talking and it makes no difference - he's always there. I had an ex once who's parents were constantly arranging family events most weekends, it becomes far too much. Chips. My father is very controlling and a few other things besides. Although I get on ok with him now, during my annual visit, growing up was a miserable experience which followed with me bouncing around in equally controlling relationships. Then Mr B came along. He's the daddy now. I often wonder what it must be like to have that close father/daughter relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrPin Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 Chips. My father is very controlling and a few other things besides. Although I get on ok with him now, during my annual visit, growing up was a miserable experience which followed with me bouncing around in equally controlling relationships. Then Mr B came along. He's the daddy now. I often wonder what it must be like to have that close father/daughter relationship. Usually women really admire their dads! IMHO. I guess dads vary! I like mine. Always a gent and fierce enough. Always let me do things, and he looked after me, and now I have to look after him a bit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The XYY Man Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Interesting topic Pinny. For what it's worth, me fatha is a bullying (mentally) old bastad, Really shite as a fatha, he's the ultimate "Competitive Dad"...! And yet, as I get older - 50th birthday two months ago - I sound more and more like him. And I don't think any of my own bairns - two daughters and a son - will be nominating me for the "Dad Of The Year" award anytime soon...! Despite all this, the irony is that now he's 72 and bedridden, our relationship is the best it's ever been. It's somewhat akin to that of Al Pacino and Marlon Brando in "The Godfather". Despite his many flaws, he's the one person whose advice I will seek before that of all others, as it is usually proven to be sound. Go figure out that "Father and Son" shit Mr P... XYY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Economic Exile Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Chips. My father is very controlling and a few other things besides. Although I get on ok with him now, during my annual visit, growing up was a miserable experience which followed with me bouncing around in equally controlling relationships. Then Mr B came along. He's the daddy now. I often wonder what it must be like to have that close father/daughter relationship. I also often wonder what a close father/daughter relationship would be like. My late father was a very angry, loud mouthed and moany man and he liked to drink a lot of alcohol. I don't recall him ever giving me a hug or telling me he loved me and I never had a close conversation with him. I didn't like him much and only done duty visits. However he was never physically violent and did give me a comfortable upbringing so I helped how I could in his final couple of months till he died aged 83. My late mother wasn't angry, loud mouthed or moany and she was almost teetotal but she was as cold, distant and unloving as him towards me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
council dweller Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Bloody hell! .......and hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeDavola Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Very sorry to hear that EE. Ever get the impression HPC has it's fair share of people who've had a few hard knocks in life - we should just say 'sod it' to society and build a hippy commune somewhere suitably picturesque....buy a big house or a hotel somewhere and all move in. Yet still only communicate over this forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Economic Exile Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Very sorry to hear that EE. Ever get the impression HPC has it's fair share of people who've had a few hard knocks in life - we should just say 'sod it' to society and build a hippy commune somewhere suitably picturesque....buy a big house or a hotel somewhere and all move in. Yet still only communicate over this forum. I'm approaching 60 now and have got over the grief of having such a poor relationship with my parents however it still makes me feel sad sometimes. I have siblings and they had good relationships with my mother and not so good with my father. Perhaps the situation was something to do with me being a very quiet deep thinker from an early age and also suffering from anxiety problems. As I aged I shunned mainstream more and more which distanced me more from them as I had little in common. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has experienced these circumstances in life. On a more positive note I have raised two kids for 16 years on my own since divorce. It wasn't easy but I'm calm, anxiety free and mainly content with my lot in life now. I feel my relationships with my 20 and 21 year old are good and healthy. One is still at home and we live mainly peacefully together and the other is at uni and visits when she wants to which is regular and we have lovely phone chats. I don't think anyone gets an easy life and I think a lot of HPC posters say sod it to mainstream society. Because I'm a loner and non mainstream I'm an acquaintence to many but a close friend of no one. I've got used to it now and most of the time I enjoy drifting through life, getting out and about and meeting a variety of people to chat with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
council dweller Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 Well.... Having had the advantage of having a stroke I can see the damage that has been done to the brain. MRI scans show the effects of stress on my amygdala in the form of red marks. (the amygdala being the primitive part of the brain which measures flight or fight responses ) Fortunately we now know how to overcome this and can rebuild our brains if we want! Two minutes of meditation 6 times a day should do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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