Ruffneck Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Basically this woman is complaining that they live in a modest home and can't afford to move up the ladder. Thing is her husband is in a low paying job and she DOESN'T WORK If you can't afford kids don't 'ave em luv - no wonder more men are choosing not to get married it's just too much hassle. http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1059750-to-be-fed-of-of-my-small-house Ok, I probably am BU. I know there are people far worse off but I am fed up 'making do' all the time.I was brought up in a family where we weren't rich at all, didn't have foreign holidays etc but we were comfortable. We had a decent size 3 bed house, it was ex council but they used to be built to a good size with a lovely size garden. I meet DH, he has always 'made do.' He used to think I was posh for having a tv that had a remote. He used a snooker cue to change channels. They used to hire a car when they went away, we always had one (not top of the range by any means, but we had a car). Me and DH moved in together. We rented flats. Not a problem, however we were constantly moving as we always had shite landlords that refused to fix anything. We moved 7 times in 7 years. One flat we were in for 3 and a half years. Lovely size, 2 bed, I got pregnant then we got evicted because I asked them (yet again) to fix the sodding boiler (thats not how I put it btw). About 3 flats we were in for 5-7 months because of awful landlord problems. We finally got a shared ownership house, all we could afford was a tiny 2 bed, still better than renting. I cannot work due to health problems. DH has a very low paid job supporting a family of 3, soon to be 4. We can afford to live but we aren't comfortable. Everything has to be saved for and we holiday with tokens from The Sun. DH is happy to plod along in life. I always hoped we were getting towards somewhere, like a decent home where we could finally settle with our children (unlikely to have anymore after our 2). I was brought up in an old fashioned household where the man went out and provided for his family (grandparents) and my grandad can't understand why DH doesn't get (or hasn't ever tried) to get a better job to provide for his family and is happy just to go along with it. It has become apparent that unless we win the lottery or some wealthy relative (don't have any) left us anything, we are stuck. I really don't see anyway forward from here and I am actually afraid that this is it. My friends all have lovely houses where they can actually invite us over for meals as the have room. We have a living room and kitchen downstairs, not even a hallway. No space for a table so tea is on our laps. I'm too embarrassed to have people over for tea. I am hormonal (to out it mildly) so please be gentle. Its just getting me down and I know I should feel grateful and make the best of what we have but I am fed up of it being a shit tip because we have to room and no storage and DH just chucks things on the kitchen side because there is no where to put anything and it is just a big mess everywhere. I'll stop moaning now. blush Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
19 year mortgage 8itch Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 has to be a hpc troll. That can't be true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest_James Toney_* Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 f**k off i all i can say , in fact i will say it again f**k off Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahBell Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 The novelty of a shiny new build wears off when you realise it's not big enough to rotate a cat even gently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snugglybear Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Well, she could always dump DH and try life as a single mother on benefits. Probably not the best time for that little experiment, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bogbrush Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Poor girl, a prime example of the damage done to peoples minds by education and the MSM. I feel really sorry for her; not for her circumstances (which are ok and easily improved) but for her mental incapacity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exiges Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Well, she could always dump DH and try life as a single mother on benefits. Probably not the best time for that little experiment, though. I feel sorry for DH, busting his hump for some ungrateful cow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StainlessSteelCat Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Meanwhile on Dad's net Does anyone know the cure for a missus that moans all of the time?I have done my best - and her indoors is still not happy. She wanted kids - we have 'em. She fell in love with a pokey shared ownership house - so we bought it (I wanted to wait until the great house price crash of 2015-20). She doesn't work because she is ill and whatever I earn still isn't enough to satisfy her soft furnishings addiction. Any thoughts before I go down the pub to drown my sorrows and wonder how the hell I ended up like this. Although to be honest he does sound a little lacking in get up and go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pablopatito Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 God, you're a bunch of mean-spirited bastards on HPC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyoto Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I feel sorry for her too. Her husbands needs a bit of a rocket up his **** with a wife and kids at home. Beyond that though, I appreciate her central point that life is just too hard. With a tiny bit more get up and go than her post demonstrates, I think she should have been able to be paying off an appropriate home and running some old banger car. It isn't much but when we can piss billions up the wall on bankers bonuses, why can't we raise the lot of the average person just a notch. Getting by is only such a struggle because of the society we've created. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pent Up Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Seriously guys it's stories like this that should make us all here realise how lucky we actually are.... ....to be intelligent people and not ******wit retards so desperate to get on the ladder they bought a shitty little shared ownership, unsellable shoe box. Should have just stayed in rented if they couldn't afford it. Also condoms are free if you ask the doctor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LivingWithTheInlaws Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 God, you're a bunch of mean-spirited bastards on HPC. Yes, brilliant, isn't it. I'm so happy here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singlemalt Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 She's clearly had an epiphany that she's married to a guy who has no ability (or desire) to step things up a notch and provide for a better lifestyle. "... I am actually afraid that this is it". It certainly is luv! I feel a bit sorry for her tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Peter Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 But isn't this what HPC is about? The inability of your average family (perhaps questions about how average this family is) to buy a suitable dwelling and then get on with their life, Peter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spongeh Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I must be getting old, but whats BU? Bloody Ugly Babies Uneducated Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StainlessSteelCat Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I must be getting old, but whats BU? Bloody Ugly Babies Uneducated Bottox unlimited? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singlemalt Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I must be getting old, but whats BU? Bloody Ugly Babies Uneducated 'Being unreasonable' I think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBlewItLastTime Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 With her supposedly incapable of working and with modest assets WTF is she doing having a 4th kid? She is a symptom of everything that has gone wrong in our entitlement culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exiges Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 She's clearly had an epiphany that she's married to a guy who has no ability (or desire) to step things up a notch and provide for a better lifestyle. It depends on what you want in life. If he's got everything he needs, and he enjoys his work, why the need for a "better lifestyle" and a "lovely house" to keep up with the Joneses. All to often we forget to appreciate what we already have. If she's embarassed to have people over because her house is too small, perhaps she needs new friends, or a new outlook on life. And given the shortage of space, why have 4 kids ? She seems to be taking no responsibility for her predicament, and appears to be doing nothing to fix it either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruffneck Posted October 13, 2010 Author Share Posted October 13, 2010 lol you're telling me she couldnt run some internet business from home? what about becoming an avon lady? she said he used to think she was posh because she had a remote control and he changed channels with a pool cue - she knew what she was getting herself into when she married him so why complain about it now 10 years down the line Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikhail Liebenstein Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 It depends on what you want in life.  If he's got everything he needs, and he enjoys his work, why the need for a "better lifestyle" and a "lovely house" to keep up with the Joneses.  All to often we forget to appreciate what we already have. If she's embarassed to have people over because her house is too small, perhaps she needs new friends, or a new outlook on life. And given the shortage of space, why have 4 kids ? She seems to be taking no responsibility for her predicament, and appears to be doing nothing to fix it either. If she had a bigger house, she'd just moan she needed a cleaner. I find myself in this predicament, having bought a massive house at the wife's request, she now proves too lazy to clean it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyoto Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 She's clearly had an epiphany that she's married to a guy who has no ability (or desire) to step things up a notch and provide for a better lifestyle. "... I am actually afraid that this is it". It certainly is luv! I feel a bit sorry for her tbh. Agreed. I see life as much harder and more grinding than it has to be at the base line. Average person x deserves more considering how rich we are as a nation. Fortunately, 10% more get up and go than the average pays you back in spades. It's not right but you have to accept it if you want to get anywhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pent Up Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 lol you're telling me she couldnt run some internet business from home? what about becoming an avon lady? Or a crack whore? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ITSmidge Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 With her supposedly incapable of working and with modest assets WTF is she doing having a 4th kid? She is a symptom of everything that has gone wrong in our entitlement culture. I assume she's including herself and her husband in the 'family of four', so she's got one kid already and another on the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riedquat Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 No sympathy from me. She just wants everything handed to her on a plate. Having more kids whilst complaining about the size of the place? And claiming to be to ill to work but having kids anyway? Face responsibility for your own actions and when you run into a hurdle trying to deal with your problems then I might listen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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