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Perfect 10 Minutes: Survey Of Men And Women Reveals The Length Of An Ideal Sexual Experience

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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1289313/Perfect-10-minutes-Survey-men-women-reveals-length-ideal-sexual-experience.html

Couples who think they’re not measuring up because so many celebrities boast about sex sessions that last all night can take some comfort.

Contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of passionate activity, sex therapists say around ten minutes is perfectly satisfactory.

In fact, shows such as Sex And The City and Desperate Housewives have created unrealistic expectations of bedroom performance that can only lead to disappointment.

Real couples are satisfied with making love for between three and 13 minutes – and can find anything over ten minutes tiresome.

Researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses.

They have collectively seen thousands of patients over decades in the U.S. and Canada.

They were asked to rate a range of times for sexual intercourse that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

Most of them classed lovemaking that lasted three to seven minutes as ‘adequate’ and sex lasting between seven and 13 minutes as ‘desirable’.

However, anything longer than 13 minutes was rated ‘too long.’

Most agreed that sex that lasted between one and two minutes was ‘too short’ to provide satisfaction.

The researchers said they wanted the results to ‘encourage’ couples.

‘Today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity,’ said Mr Corty, an Associate Professor of Psychology at Penn State University.

‘Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy of… all-night-long intercourse.

‘This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction.

‘We hope this survey will dispel fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data.’

Corty and Guardiani published their findings in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

The survey comes as counselling services reported an increase in the number of couples complaining that they are disappointed with their sex lives.

Counselling organisation Relate has seen a two-fold increase in the number of couples turning to sex therapy in the past five years.

A separate survey published this month has shown that most married women would now rather go to sleep, read a book or watch a film than have sex.

It would appear that I last too long for "satisfactory" sex, damn no wonder I never feel satisfied afterwards. I'd better get the stop watch out or set the alarm to go off after 10 minutes so I can get satisfactory sex.

How many of you manage to get it done in perfect time?

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It would appear that I last too long for "satisfactory" sex, damn no wonder I never feel satisfied afterwards. I'd better get the stop watch out or set the alarm to go off after 10 minutes so I can get satisfactory sex.

How many of you manage to get it done in perfect time?

Quite a short time.

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A separate survey published this month has shown that most married women would now rather go to sleep, read a book or watch a film than have sex.

This fact should, by law, be required to be presented to all men by the registrar.

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Is this daily mail quality research again?

For the record, 30 minutes is a bit on the quick side, 45-90 is usual, 3hrs+ and things are starting to chafe too much for it to be enjoyable anymore.

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10-15 minutes not including foreplay sounds about right to me actually.

Far too quick and mechanical, I prefer long slow love making to a quick pump shoot, 10-15 minutes is masturbation territory not making love...

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I said not including foreplay.

Fair point.

So what counts as foreplay and how long does it take?

10-30 minutes?

Oral not proper sex in the 'biblical' sense?

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Just spending 5-10 minutes gently caressing a woman's thighs or stomach until she's willing you to start stroking somewhere else rather than going straight for the full on grope makes all the difference.

Not for the man it doesn't. No difference at all.

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I could never understand all these claims of making love for hours. Human males are not built like that. All those porn stars are only able to maintain erections because they are on viagra. Unless someone it touching it, it ain't going to stay hard forever. Even once its in, its a game of balance. Too fast and you shoot your load too soon, too slow and there is not enough sensation. I am sure most guys have felt themselves begin to get too soft for thrusting and have to ***** a few strokes to get it back in.

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And men wonder why their wives and girlfriends aren't that interested in sex. Just spending 5-10 minutes gently caressing a woman's thighs or stomach until she's willing you to start stroking somewhere else rather than going straight for the full on grope makes all the difference.

Carry on... what's your spot?

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And men wonder why their wives and girlfriends aren't that interested in sex. Just spending 5-10 minutes gently caressing a woman's thighs or stomach until she's willing you to start stroking somewhere else rather than going straight for the full on grope makes all the difference.

Cuddles and caresses are great, and may or may not lead further (either way is just fine). But once a chap has reached a certain state, there's only one thing that matters ...

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Exactly, they can finish themselves off.

Or 'pre-heating the oven' as the missus refers to it.

Too much information? Guess so.

Know exactly what you mean. Of course, a gentlemen will always provide further assistance to his lady if needs be.

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And the cuddles and caresses make the difference between it being an enjoyable experience for both partners or a little bit rapey.

Ahh, mmm....beer, (he says, rushing to defuse the situation) he's only saying that at most blokes, at some point, just want sex, not that they'd force or intimidate a woman into it.

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And the cuddles and caresses make the difference between it being an enjoyable experience for both partners or a little bit rapey.

Don't some women like it a bit rapey sometimes and not just low self-esteem types.

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Don't some women like it a bit rapey sometimes and not just low self-esteem types.

Not with anyone they don't know. Though a little play-acting with trusted partners might be fun for some women.

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I've had some really nice, lovely, docile boyfriends and I enjoy sex a lot more than most other women ( or so it seems). But there have still been a few times where I wasn't exactly in the mood but the man was rather insistent so I went along with it - I think that in those circumstances I would have enjoyed it more if there had been a bit more foreplay.

Oh, I don't doubt you. My wife almost always seemed to enjoy sex, and often initiated it, but there were occasional times when I was keen and she was obviously just going along with me (despite my efforts at foreplay, she just wasn't really in the mood). She used to say she didn't mind, but I was never really sure :(

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Just spending 5-10 minutes gently caressing a woman's thighs or stomach until she's willing you to start stroking somewhere else rather than going straight for the full on grope makes all the difference.

For men too. :)

Anymore than 10-15 minutes and it starts to get faintly ridiculous and you stand the risk of bursting out laughing. (Not great if the woman doesn't know you that well, but if she does it can be OK.) Foreplay - now that can go on for days.

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Don't some women like it a bit rapey sometimes and not just low self-esteem types.

There seems to be a myth that a rough " tom" is almost the same as rape.

Forget it. It is like comparing a pedicure to a foot amputation.ph34r.gif

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Ahh, mmm....beer, (he says, rushing to defuse the situation) he's only saying that at most blokes, at some point, just want sex, not that they'd force or intimidate a woman into it.

Indeed. Actually what's frustrating at that point isn't a clean "no", it's ambiguity!

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Know exactly what you mean. Of course, a gentlemen will always provide further assistance to his lady if needs be.

Of course; i'll normally put the kettle on while she's going about her duties.

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