Very sorry about your Step Father and I hope taht the funeral goes as well as a funeral can go.
I've lost quite a few of my immediate family, my Mum back in 1993, eldest brother 1998 and another brother in 1999.
I also put things into perspective at the time - but over the years have realised that we have little choice but to worry about money, what with everything going up in price much faster than our incomes. I also belive that having money CAN increase life expectancy.....in which case having money can be a beneift. Not to mention the stress one can suffer from being in debt or living on the bread line.
Any one of us on these boards may not see tomorrow but we still have to live as though we will...unless any of us are multi millionaires in which case just enjoy your life as much as possible. Even though I am the youngest brother, I thought i'd probably die before my brothers....if any of us were to die young. My eldest had a heart attack just into his 40's and my other brother, who was also my best mate, died at 29 in a motorcycling accident. Yet I was always the most likely to die on my motorbike or have a heart attack because of my poor diet.
But as a Christian I do believe in fate. I did ask questions of God. Why so many from one family, why me etc. And then I think of others who have lost far more than I have.
My Father owned his house outright 20 years ago or so and retired early at 55. I think that this is one of the reason he will be celebrationg his 70th birthday next Wednesday...and probably his 100th in little over 30 years. He has no stress, enough money in the bank to do as he chooses and eats a very good diet, heating on when it's cold (not all pensioners have this luxury)
Longevity and wealth is all too often related.....which is why it angers me that our country's elderly are allowed to die because they couldn't afford to eat a balanced diet or heats their homes...while we pay for illegal immigrants and prisoners :angry:
I've been to many Christian funerals - my West Indian family always celebrate the lives of the ones that have left us. Plenty of food and drink, meeting new people and most of all thanking God for allowing that person to be part of our lives. I hope that you can do the same.